Many books have been written on how to deal with grief and loss. In our darkest and bleakest moments, we can pick up one of these books and try to make sense of how we should behave or feel following the death of a loved one.
We can learn about the process through which we pass: the stages or cycle of bereavement involving grief, denial, shock, anger and eventually acceptance, of some sort. Does this really help? Some of us may think we’re abnormal if we don’t pass through this cycle, yet others think they’re abnormal if they get stuck and yo-yo backwards and forwards through the circle and never get on the road to recovery. We may worry about things said, or unsaid, actions taken or not taken and regret that these things will never be put right.
Loss affects all of us at some stage in our lives and for every loss we suffer, we may handle it in a totally different way depending on the relationship to the loss, whether it is a close family member, a friend, a colleague or a pet.
It is important to acknowledge your loss, give yourself permission to feel and understand that whatever you feel is right for you and you alone. To recover from a loss takes as long as it takes, there is no right or wrong way.